About The Blog

Welcome to a safe place to talk about love, all kinds of love really. I mean the main question I'm looking to explore here to begin with is the question of The Romeo and Juliet dream and it's viability in our modern world. If it was ever viable. I mean I have difficulty believing that there were many love matches back then either. Has anyone seen "The Last Duel"?

But I've created this blog to explore that question, what is true passionate love these days and does it really happen for most people or just some people? And if it does happen, does it last? And what are the consequences if it doesn't? You can see where the questions just start to multiply and branch off from the beginning here. And I'm hoping visitors will have new questions to ask so we can look at the thing from unexpected angles. I certainly hope visitors will have suggestions, advice and stories to share.


A little about me in case you're wondering. I'm Becca Pearl. I'm a part time freelance illustrator/Medical Assistant or the other way around if you like. I've worked in the film and entertainment industry for most of my adult life and despite swinging hard for every other genre besides romance the damn subject creeps in at the edges of everything. 

It doesn't help that I began my career as an animation artist with Walt Disney Feature Animation--the kingdom of happy ever after romance. But I really fought hard to keep my nose in science fiction, horror, and crazy fantasy movies in my down time. And yet...I watched Buffy the Vampire Slayer, good Lord so much passionate romance in that show and it was about freaking vampires and supernatural creatures! I'm pretty sure the only safe science fiction movie I've ever seen was Alien. I have seen that more than once if that tells you anything about me.

I live and work in the San Francisco Bay Area, the Sonoma Wine Country part. I am married to a wonderful man who shares a great many of my likes and dislikes. He gets my sense of humor and tolerates my trucker-mouth. He's also supportive of my creative pursuits even when it means I spend a lot of time glued to my computer. 

We work hard at our relationship to keep it solid and strong, trying hard to make sure that both of us feels heard and given time. It is not always smooth sailing. Marriage is work. It is taking time to talk when the ship is wandering off course for one or both of us, and making the time to do it before one partner is more frustrated than the other to make the talk constructive. When you take the vows you sign up for the job. But it's compassionate work and worth the effort.

The questions I explore here are not meant to demean or belittle my marriage in any way. I made a good choice when I married my husband. I have no regrets.

 
Let me offer the acknowledgement right here that many women and men are in relationships that are less than wonderful or even comfortable. Some are regrettably abusive. This site is in no way intended to ridicule a good, kind, loving relationship with a partner which lacks passion. Or to put such a relationship in the same category with an abusive one.

Please enjoy yourselves here. Feel free to visit as a tourist only or contribute if you want to.